Hello, I am Natasha Bailie, I run an online website/community called MENTAL x MUTHA where women can discuss and share their mental health victories and struggles whilst they parent. Because believe it or not – we can do both. My hope is that the more we discuss our truths, the less power they will have over us. The more we talk – the better we feel and the more we educate others – and hopefully, just hopefully by talking more it will lessen the stigma surrounding ‘being mental’ and parenting. I am Max’s ‘MUM’, Ian’s ‘WIFE’ and Cosmo’s (the dog) chief ear scratcher. I like Game of Thrones and I don’t like when people say “I watched the first episode and didn’t get it”. I don’t get them.
You can find me all over the internet @natashabailie
Has cancer ever cast a shadow over your life and nicked your smile?
“Last year my best friend had
the big C until she didn’t“
Yes and no. Last year my best friend had the big C until she didn’t. Turns out she lied about having cancer. I don’t think anything can prepare you for finding out your friend has cancer, but absolutely nothing can prepare you for discovering that your friend who you were supporting and caring for lied to you about having cancer. It has been one of the most intense and sad years of my life.
What is the biggest obstacle that gets in the way of you smiling more?
“I have lost myself a bit, my belief system has been shaken“
Since last year I find myself second guessing relationships and people’s motives a lot. I have lost myself a bit, my belief system has been shaken and I am trying to build myself up again. Through CBT and self-care I am starting to see the light in the days again, but it is a process.
What has been your Highest High and your Lowest Low?
“when a stranger suggests my intentions are misguided or un-helpful it hurts”
My highest high was when I started MENTAL x MUTHA and the response it still receives. I started the website late January of this year and there are nearly 200 women on the site. It has been incredible. The resource section of the site is jam-packed with help and guidance for anyone who wants help and it feels like a great achievement. I feel proud.
My lowest low has been the trolls online. People say ‘grow a thick skin”, but as a girl with her feelings on her collar and my heart and snot on my sleeve that is hard. I am passionate about MENTAL x MUTHA and so when a stranger suggests my intentions are misguided or un-helpful it hurts.
What helps you get out of the dark and find your smile?
Crying, writing, a coffee with a mate, exercise, laughing, singing Moana or a dance party with the kid.
Do you find social media to be a source of positivity or pressure?
“If it makes me feel shit I just stop looking at it. I am a big fan of the unfollow button“
Both. I am responsible for what I see so I curate my feed accordingly. If it makes me feel shit I just stop looking at it. I am a big fan of the unfollow button. So, all in all, it is positive. The connections I have made with women on Instagram, for example, have been life changing and I am so grateful. The trolls are hard, but I am learning to laugh and leave it, but it is a process.
Who never fails to get you smiling and why?
The kid. He is 5 and hilarious. He looks identical to my husband, but he has all my facial expressions and my mannerisms and listening to him tell a story is the best thing. Never fails to make me smile. Also, he is so funny and I love seeing the world through his viewfinder. He makes the world lighter.
What made you smile today?
Talking to a mum at the school gates about her enormous hedgehog problem. I laughed so hard.
A movie that gets you cheesing?
LA LA LAND.
A song that cheers you up?
Anything by Cardi B.
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